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By/May 1, 2017 1:19 pm EST/Updated: Aug. 11, 2020 1:54 pm EST

When I was growing up, I thought dating ceased at approximately 25 to 27 years of age. Most 'adults' I knew, like my older brother and cousins, were hitched by 27, so my theory made sense. By the age of 27, you are several years removed from college, likely already installed in a solid job, all those obligatory one-night-stands are out of the way, and you've had enough time to settle down and find 'the one.'

The idea of dating after 40 simply didn't exist. But while divorce rates have decreased, after a steady uptick, plenty of people re-enter the dating scene later in life. Here are the ways dating is different when you are 40 and over.

​You have more responsibilities and distractions

Most people over 40 are established in their lives, with steady careers and families. When seeking a new mate, you have way more responsibilities and things that demand your attention at this stage than when you were in college or just graduating.

'Dating is going to have a different landscape after 40 because people are more likely to have been through a divorce or have kids,' relationships expert Jennifer Seiter told me. 'It will be more challenging because you will have more external distractions from your relationship. For example, if you have kids, your new partner may feel neglected if you pay more attention to them, than her or him.' If you are diving back into the dating pool in your 40s, expect #adulting to be an obstacle, but not an insurmountable one.

​You may have to deal with a former spouse

Former spouses may remain in the picture — in your life or theirs — thus, creating some drama. Or, at the very least, some degree of awkwardness.

'You or your new mate may have an ex that is trying to sabotage the new relationship,' Seiter said. 'The disruption can manifest in subtle or passive aggressive ways, such as verbal barbs or dropping in under the guise of seeing the kids.' These realities make establishing a new relationship a little bit tougher, since there are a variety of emotions, feelings, and scenarios that come into play.

​You make better choices

When you are in your 40s and re-entering the dating scene, it can be scary because you haven't done it in a while and are a little rusty. There's also a lot more at stake in this point in your life, since, let's face it, no one's getting any younger. But don't panic. The fact that you are older, wiser, and more experienced means you will be more judicious when dating and considering potential partners. 'The good news is you know yourself really well by 40 and know what you want, therefore, making better choices,' Seiter said.

As Roger Ziegler, a 15-year certified life and relationship coach, told me, 'Hopefully, by now, you are looking for a connection that goes beyond the surface appearance of things. Kindness and good conversation are more important than looks or wealth.' He also pointed to what you may look for when it comes to online dating profiles. 'You're less impressed with the shirtless man standing next to a sleeping tiger and more interested in visiting a nature preserve for tiger viewing,' he said, referencing how social media postings on dating apps are designed to impress, and may be more about artifice than reality, with a younger generation.

You are all grown up

By the time you are 40, you're a bona fide grown-up. That's not to suggest that you are all business, all of the time. But you likely have moved past the messy, surface stuff that defines dating in your youth. Relationship expert Audrey Hope told me, 'Not only have you grown in time, but you have also grown in your self-worth and experience, and can therefore magnetize a better love match through the law of attraction. You lived through and survived the bad boys (or bad girls), the ones who broke your heart, and so now after 40, you are ready for mature and lasting love.'

She continued, 'You have probably deepened from experiences and are now looking more at the soul, the heart, and the inside of the person, rather than their hair and pant size. The superficialness has faded.'

​It's a whole new world

Dating apps and social media are relatively new constructs. If you were dating actively 20 years ago, you likely had to rely on actually going out and meeting potential mates in public places, like bars and clubs. Now, there's Tinder, Grindr, Facebook, Twitter, OK Cupid, and lots of other ways to meet all sorts of people. That makes dating very exciting as long as you can sift through the ether.

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Don't be afraid to get online to find a mate, according to Laurel House, author and Celebrity Dating Coach on E!'sFamously Single. But don't dive into it without having a plan. 'Make sure that you have a strategy and you are smart about it. Ask questions, assert your needs, and have a confident 'Here I am' mentality,' she told me.

Hope also warns against being afraid of online dating. 'Your dating radar will speed up,' she said. 'You know what you want and don't have time to waste. You are now more serious and looking for qualities that have long-term value, like a guy or girl with an interesting career and family aspirations. It matters now how he or she feels about the world and the state of humanity. ' If you are 'old fashioned' and prefer offline dating, Hope suggested the gym, or business events and parties as the best places to meet a mate at this age.

​Sex may take a back seat to commitment

When I was in college, dating was more about hooking up and the 'now,' than it was about forging a long-lasting connection, or talking about the state of the world, or going super deep about shared interests. When you are in your 40s, great sex is still an important part of your life, but as Hope said, 'It might not be number one on the list. Maybe now it has moved to the number two slot. Commitment might take the top slot.' If you are in your 40s and perhaps have never been married, you are likely looking for something more meaningful, especially if you hope to start a family.

Hope continued, 'You enter a space where you know what you want, you are sure of yourself, and hold higher self-esteem. Your voice probably got louder too (spiritually and vocally), so you won't 'stay longer at the party' than is necessary. You see and know what you deserve. You may demand a great life and a great relationship and know how to get it. You have stopped wasting time, finally!'

There are more people seeking the same things

One of the perks of dating in your 40s is that you may easily find people who are seeking the same things in life that you are. Alisa Ruby Bash, PsyD, LMFT in Malibu told me, 'Although there certainly can be players, liars, or sociopaths out there — and everyone should always keep their guard up when getting to know someone — there tend to be less options in the dating pool,' she said. 'Most people are settled down. Therefore, people tend to value each other more, and give each other more of an opportunity.'

She continued, 'After 40, people are usually able to connect more and experience authentic relationships because they are willing to give it more of a chance. Therefore, the physical intimacy can be a lot more fulfilling than the shallow, less intimate sex people tend to have in their 20s, when dating.'

You will spend less time looking

When you are more well-adjusted and self-aware, you will require less time actually dating if you trust in your own experiences. 'You generally have a much better idea of what a good relationship looks like. No? Well, here it is. You see yourself in good, pleasant conversation with this person for 20 years or more,' Ziegler said. 'Every other good thing flows from that.'

​You get serious more quickly

Once you hit 40, chances are, you have already been in a long-term or committed relationship — or several — and you know what you want, what you like, and what works, or doesn't.

Bash told me, 'Because of the wisdom age brings, and life experience, relationships can experience deeper levels of emotional intimacy sooner than in those of younger people who do not know themselves, or feel truly comfortable being themselves. Therefore, people tend to get more serious quicker after 40. They realize how precious and rare true connections are, and probably are very sick of being alone.'

​The love can be deeper

Dating later in life becomes more critical since people approaching midlife may be more eager to settle down and perhaps remarry, according to Bash. 'Usually, people do not want to waste time dating a bunch of others,' Bash noted. 'People tend to be more settled and advanced in their careers, and have more security. So, usually they want to enjoy life with a partner, and travel, etc. Instead of seeing what is out there, or being afraid to commit, people usually want companionship, and to build a new life with someone. It can be so refreshing for those people to start their new lives with a clean slate, and not waste time.'

'The love couples experience after 40 is usually deeper,' Bash said. 'Since it's not a first love, and not their first rodeo, they have to accept each other with their baggage, and usually grow in their own self-acceptance as well. Seeing themselves through fresh eyes — through the eyes of another, after 40 — can give them a new perspective and change their entire understanding of life.' She also noted, 'As the human lifespan increases, and people generally have more than one life partner, dating over 40 can be some of the best dating, and healthiest relationships people experience.'

​Your online dating profile is the real deal

Samantha Daniels, Relationship Expert and Founder of The Dating Lounge App, noted that someone in their 40s would craft a dating profile that is more seasoned. 'Your dating app profile is your resume,' she told me. 'For 40-somethings in the dating world, strong online profiles are essential to making a solid first impression. For younger generations, profiles can be filled with fun tidbits and quirky details. Anyone dating past 40, however, is looking for a serious, substantial relationship and does not have time to waste on cutesy descriptions. Build an appealing profile with an attractive photo and an interesting, honest description, since this is your first chance to make a strong first impression.'

Need a little help editing yours? Daniels suggested selecting one or two sites and apps 'that will allow your personality to shine and help you to focus on finding dates who match perfectly with your interests. You can use your valuable time to focus on your dating deal breakers and initial attraction parameters so you can find the right match.'

Your date night outfit sends a message

Date night outfits for twentysomethings are very different than those of someone in their 40s. Daniels suggested that a go-to date outfit in your 40s should have a 'hint of sexy.' Since 'dating in your 20s and 30s often involves a lot of low-cut tops and tight-fitting outfits, the rule to follow in your 40s is a hint of sexy.' That's because you want to project a different, but equally important message.

Daniels says, 'You want to appear classic and put-together...The proper outfit will emphasize the fact that you have your life together and are not looking to play the field any longer. By putting together an attractive, presentable outfit, you communicate to your date that you are serious about pursuing a longterm relationship and are not interested in short-term hookups.'

​The conversations change

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Your topics of conversation shift when getting acquainted with new people at this stage of your life. But you also want to be mindful of how you voice what you want, so as not to scare off a prospective partner.

'Young people dating tend to stay away from complicated topics like marriage, kids, and finances until their relationship progresses,' Daniels said. 'As a 40-year-old in the dating world, such conversation points are always on your mind. However, you need to be careful how and when you bring up these more serious topics while you are dating. You need to err on the side of bringing up serious topics more slowly, while at the same time garnering enough information from a potential future partner to understand if your beliefs and desires are in sync.'

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Yes, dating in your 40s is new, different, and challenging, thanks to the digital world in which we all reside. But the reason humans seek each other out is the same regardless of age or generation, and that's because of the fundamental desire to connect. While it might take some adjustments to navigate a whole new online world, if you always offer your best, most authentic self, you'll attract the partner who suits you best.

Are you trying out something new? Are you looking to spice up your relationship with someone else’s involvement? Maybe you’re currently unhappy with your partner, but you aren’t sure if you are ready to leave your arrangement. Whatever your choices might be, we are here to help you to find out the top 10 affair dating websites for cheating, married dating and attached people!

Internet dating has been a well-endowed concept ever since the early days of the internet, where it has manifested through all sorts of different forums. Long gone are the days of the old internet, and everything connected to it has improved.

We’ve evolved from forums into applications and complex services. So, you’re pretty likely to find a well made and advanced dating website that fits all of your needs. There is a dating website for every niche out there, and married people looking to have a little fun on the side have always been a popular demographic.

1. AshleyMadison

AshleyMadison is one of the oldest dating websites around, period. It has been around since the early days of 2001. Since it’s creation, it has provided its users with a safe, fun, and discreet place to find some potential fun on the side.

It is primarily based in the USA with its incredibly vast user base of over 24 million different and unique users, with over 2 million joining each month. The gender demographics on this website are predominantly male. If you’re a lady looking for a little something, you’re sure to find a potential partner here. If you’re an attached man, you just have to try hard and stand out from the competition.

The registration process is free and straightforward, as it won’t take more than a couple of minutes from start to finish. Once you’ve signed up, you can get into mingling with your peers or editing your profile further. The profile editing tool is terrific and offers you numerous choices you can fill in.

Ashley Madison also offers its users with a mobile application that supports both iOS and Android, and it is one of the better dating apps around. It has a very simple and well-made interface that helps you take your dating needs on the go.

Since the website has been hacked in 2015, creating a scandal and releasing information about its users, it’s security has been updated massively. We assure you, you’re completely safe on this website and discretion is their top priority!

AshleyMadison functions on a credit/point-based system. This, in turn, means that registration and basic functions are free, while other actions require you to pay in “points.” Virtual points cost real money, but they’re reasonably priced. One hundred credits will only set you back about 60$.

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2. HeatedAffairs

HeatedAffairs is an online dating website that is primarily catered to people who are currently in relationships. It does not discriminate tho, as anyone and everyone can join this website and be part of its beautiful community.

It has a grand userbase of over 45 million different and unique users for you to engage in conversation with (And hopefully, something else.), and boasts an extremely active and fun-loving community. A real gem in the dating scene, HeatedAffaris boasts a more than fair male to female ratio and is predominantly 30+ when it comes to the age demographics of the website.

The best benefits of this website come with its usability. The website and the application it offers are incredibly user-friendly and contain a whole lot of exciting features for you to explore. It is a commercial website, meaning unless you pay up, you can only browse profiles.

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The website suffers from one common flaw. The website itself is free to sign up to and make your profile, but you really need to cough up some dough to get the full benefits.

3. IllicitEncounters

IlicitEncounters is a UK based cheating dating website and service that is catered to people in any relationship. It is the biggest website in the UK dedicated to this purpose, boasting over one million unique members.

Since it is much more local than any USA based affair dating website, IllicitEnoucnters has an extremely tight-knit community with over 1000 unique users. If you’re a member of the website, you’re much more likely to be known by other members. If your tactic is to blend in with the numbers, this might not be the best website for you.

Unlike other websites, most of these users are looking for a hookup or something casual as opposed to advanced and long-lasting affairs. The sign-up process is quick and simple and does not require a lot of your personal information. At this moment, IlicitEncounters does not offer a mobile application.

Like all good things in life, IlicitEncounters membership does not come cheap, and it most certainly does not come free. Memberships start from 170 GBP a month. It does function on a hybrid payment system in which you can do some things for credits and some things with a premium membership. Credits start at a much more reasonable 20 GBP for 3000 credits.

4. HornyWife

HornyWife is an excellent online matchmaking service that matches people who are in existing relationships. The website itself has existed for a little longer than the competition, having its roots set in the early 2000’.

It boasts over a million unique users all across North America and is one of the primary hookup websites when it comes to cheating on your spouse or SO. Its userbase is mostly focused on short term affairs and relationships, so if you’re looking for a new chance at love, this might not be the website for you.

It does offer some exciting features such as 2-way webcam chatting and a good DM service. The cybersecurity team is very active and responsive. It is available to you 24/7.

The website is free to sign up, but not free to use. It will set you back a couple of dollars a month to a couple of hundred, depending on what you decide to do with the website.

5. AffairDating

AffairDating is one of the most pristine and established websites in the online affair dating community. It is an excellent option if you want a discreet and safe site to have your little online affair in.

It does place its primary focus on real-life encounters, but it does not place a ban on sexting and other forms of communication between its big member-base. It is one of the cheapest websites around, but registering itself is not free. It will set you back a very modest 30$ a month.

This is a great way to practice caution and security. Pay to access websites are far less likely to attract dangerous people such as scammers or people looking to blackmail you. Other websites that allow browsing but not viewing are always in potential danger to show your webpage to everyone who looks.

6. Gleeden

Gleeden is an affair dating website that is exclusive to France. It is a niche website set in a niche country. So, if you’re either French or visiting France for one reason or another, you’re sure to find your next affair on this website.

It does operate outside of France, but not with much success. It has over 5 million different and unique members for you to interact with. It is very female friendly and orientated, as the admin team is exclusively female and pro-feminist. All sorts of abuse will result in a quick and swift ban, so your safety is of the utmost concern.

It is that type of dating service that is also focused on the social aspect. It is used as a popular social media platform in France to establish love or platonic relationships between people. It is marketed as a “Divorce Alternative.”

It functions on a credit-based system, and the smallest package you can buy will set you back a measly 5 euros.

7. VictoriaMilan

After AshleyMadison, VictoriaMilan is the second most popular affair dating website on the market. It is unprecedented in its beautiful design and user-friendliness and is exceptionally highly populated with about Five million unique and real profiles.

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Five million might not seem like much. But, considering that VictoriaMilan’s members are confirmed worldwide while most others aren’t, this is a staggering number. VictoriaMilan places most of its eggs in one basket, affair dating for people who are in unhappy and unfulfilling relationships.

The signup process is stupidly simple, and anyone can do it in a couple of minutes. After you’ve signed up, you will be met with an extremely advanced search that will help you filter out everything you are and aren’t looking for in your potential affair partner.

Privacy and discretion are of the utmost concern. Unlike the competition, VictoriaMilan has never had a scandal concerning its userbase. The web security team is ever vigilant in rooting out dead profiles, fake profiles, and scammers.

The price of this amazing website is also rather low, with membership options starting from 30$ a month if you opt for a yearlong membership.

8. FirstAffair

FirstAffair is one of the oldest and most set names in the industry. Gaining ti’s fame and notoriety through rigorous advertisements on adult websites, FirstAffair is a well-established website in the internet affair and cheating community.

It has over 2 million members, and its age and gender demographics are very fair at an almost perfect 50/50 split. When you’ve finished the simple sign up process, you will be met with an advanced profile editing tool that lets you make your profile. You can add as much or as little information about yourself.

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The website offers some interesting and unique features to itself, such as live video, two-way webcam, and live chat. It is not free, but won’t set you back by a lot if you opt for the longer membership.

9. MarriedSecrets

MarriedSecrets is an up and coming website in the married dating website community, with over one million different and unique users. It advertises itself as a website to help you recapture the feeling of when you have first fallen in love.

The website boasts over 2 million unique users and helps people establish long-lasting affairs with each other. It’s almost exclusive to North America but does offer a minuscule European population.

If you’re married and you’re unhappy with your relationship, this might be the perfect website for you. It places its concern into discretion and anonymity, so if this is a big concern, this is the website that will fulfill your needs. It helps that the website is highly praised and reviewed, but don’t trust us, read it for yourself!

10. FindNewPassion

FindNewPassion is a great website that provides a much-needed service for people who are married, but not dead. It advertises itself as a matchmaking service that is catered to cheating and affairs.

The sign-up process is a bit more detailed than most of the competition. But, it’s a great way to root out scammers and other people looking for your private information. It offers a lot of features, and it is a great and viable option if you’re looking for a little something on the side.

There are chat-rooms to the website, so establishing the first contact is very simple and easy to do. Breaking the ice might not always be the simplest of things, but this greatly reduces the headache!

Unlike most of the websites in the dating industry, using this website is completely free. While you can opt for a premium membership, the website itself is completely free and usable in this way. You can send messages, view profiles, and partake in numerous other features free of charge. What a lifesaver!

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